An Intro to eharmony + Tips from eharmony

As we cover eHarmony quite extensively here on, we thought we would invite them to write a brief intro to their service. If you want the best know how, go straight to the experts, so thats what we did. Verity from eHarmony has kindly written up a guide to help you get the most of your time on eharmony *updated with 5, science backed tips to help you succeed*


We have just added 5 tips (based on research from eharmony) to help you make the most of your time on eharmony.

Are you tempted to give eharmony a try?

If you’re ready for a meaningful relationship, then give our service, eharmony a try. We are an expert in the field, with a unique approach to matchmaking, centred on compatibility.
eHarmony was founded in 2000 by clinical psychologist Dr Neil Clark Warren. It now boasts 70 million members worldwide. Before launching in the UK in 2008, the brand worked in partnership with University of Oxford’s Internet Institute to identify patterns that predict compatibility for couples, this was then used to build UK-specific compatibility models.
Singles head to eharmony hoping to find happy, meaningful relationships. If you’re looking for a quick fling or hook-up then it’s probably not the site for you.

eharmony - how it all works

Singles who sign up to eharmony start by taking the site’s in-depth Relationship Questionnaire. The questionnaire helps the experts behind the service really get to know you, so they can pair you people you’ll be compatible with. It does take a little longer to get started than most dating sites, but why rush something as important as finding love? Set aside half an hour, pour yourself a glass of wine, and dig in.
It’s worth taking time to answer the questions in a natural but considered way – you might be surprised by how much you find out about yourself!
Your responses help the site to build a comprehensive profile of your personality. eharmony’s experts then map this against their key dimensions of compatibility, which tell them who’ll be most suited to you. These key dimensions include things like how outgoing you are, how conscientious you are, and how romantic you are.
Why do these dimensions matter? Well, if one half of a couple loves going out every weekend while the other prefers to stay in, that’ll likely cause problems in the long-run. They might find each other’s differences exciting at first but, over time, those differences will lead to frustration and conflict that could end the relationship.

Meeting your matches

After you’ve completed the Relationship Questionnaire, filled in your profile, and uploaded a selection of photos, you’re ready to meet your matches. Unlike other dating sites, eharmony focuses on quality over quantity. They don’t make you spend hours scrolling through hundreds of profiles trying to find someone you like. Instead, they send a set of matches to you every day, all perfectly tailored to you, and then you can decide whether you’d like to start a conversation.
There are many ways you can make contact. Break the ice by sending a smile or adding their profile to your favourites. Send them a question with multiple choice answers from the selection provided or write a message of your own.

And once you start exchanging messages, the rest is up to you, have fun and stay safe: don’t exchange email addresses or phone numbers straightaway, never send money, meet in a public place, and never be afraid to leave the date if you feel uncomfortable.

5 tips to help you succeed on eharmony

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    The ideal profile length is between 200-250 words – profiles of this length, on eharmony, receive 50% more messages
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    The worst time to send an opening message is between 8.30 and 10.30pm
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    Don’t just say ‘Hi!’ - opening messages of just one or two words receive 35% fewer replies than longer messages
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    Include plenty of photos – every additional photograph increases communication rates by up to 10%. 4-7 photos are the best amount to have. 
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    Profiles that have photos including other people or featuring extreme close-ups receive the least messages

Darren has first hand experience of the dating game after spending over 5 years using every site, app and trick he could get his hands on. He writes for numerous publications including The Guardian, eharmony and offering dating advice that real people can use to help them make the most of their time on and off line.

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